Showing posts with label Virginia. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Virginia. Show all posts

Tuesday, July 15, 2014

Adding Wisdom to Strength


Adding Wisdom to Strength

As an often overwhelmed mother of many, I crave inspiration where I can get it. I’m also a word person, and a single word can sustain me for a long time.

While on my way to a family reunion with my younger kids, we visited a coal mine tour in Pennsylvania. I wanted them to have a sense of their family heritage, since my great-great-grandfather Heinrich Hess, a German immigrant, was a coal miner in that area.

In the gift store after the tour, I found a bin of engraved rocks with words on them. Many of them – such as “Organize” and “Simplicity” - appealed to me, but I decided to narrow my choice to a single one: “Wisdom.” Right now, wisdom is the crying need of my heart.

So today, as I unpacked our vacation treasures, I placed my “Wisdom” stone next to the “Strength” stone I had picked out last year on my birthday as a gift from my daughter. The juxtaposition of the two stones together reminded me of a key principle in life: 

We need to always add wisdom to our strength. 

There are so many things we can do, that we have the power to do. I am glad of that. In the past year, I have needed the strength of courage, energy, and focus to step up and do things that needed to be done. Strength is good, but we desperately need wisdom to make right choices and apply our strength to the right things. These are not always obvious, even when reading the Bible. The Holy Spirit can guide us more specifically as we listen closely with a yielded heart.

I sat yesterday to read my old leather bound Bible and write notes in my Scripture journal. I opened to 2 Corinthians 1, where I had left off my study, and read verse 12.

“Our conscience testifies that we have conducted ourselves in the world, and especially in our relations with you, in the holiness and sincerity that are from God.  We have done so not according to worldly wisdom but according to God’s grace.”

I thought about this as I wrote:

“This is what I want to be able to say as a Christian.  This requires consecration to God, and wisdom about what he requires. I need to think of this verse as I make decisions for the future, especially ones that affect other people. Some things may seem godly which are not. Some things may seem worldly which are not. What will bring the most glory to God? What is the best way to show his redemption and rescue in my life? How can I lead my children in the ways of the Lord?

[Side note: Are you curious why I said, “Some things may seem godly which are not. Some things may seem worldly which are not”?  We must not be naïve in our attempts to please God. In the garden of life, we need to be careful not to be snagged by the thorns, even ones that seem pious. Remember that Jesus himself said in Matthew 10:16, “Behold, I send you out as sheep in the midst of wolves. Therefore be wise as serpents and harmless as doves.”  You can read more at the bottom of this post: Follow the Way of Love.]

As I contemplate my future and the choices I need to make, I know I need both wisdom and strength. I want to live with sincerity and holiness in the midst of a world of heartache and confusion. Pray for me, will you? Write to me, and I'll pray for you, too!

Some of my favorite wisdom verses to ponder: 

“Who is wise and understanding among you? Let him show it by his good life, but deeds done in the humility that comes from wisdom. But if you harbor bitter envy or selfish ambition in your hearts, do not boast about it or deny the truth. Such “wisdom” does not come down from heaven, but is earthly, unspiritual, of the devil. For where you have envy and selfish ambition, there you find disorder and every evil practice. But the wisdom that comes from heaven is first of all pure; then peace loving, considerate, submissive, full of mercy and good fruit, impartial and sincere. Peacemakers who sow in peace raise a harvest of righteousness.”  James 3:13-18

“Now there lived in that city a man poor but wise, and he saved the city by his wisdom. But nobody remembered that poor man. So I said, “Wisdom is better than strength.” But the poor man’s wisdom is despised, and his words are no longer heeded.  The quiet words of the wise are more to be heeded than the shouts of a ruler of fools. Ecclesiastes 9:15-17

As Heinrich Hess wrote at the end of his 1886 memoir,



"At my confirmation I selected this verse, Psalm 143, verse 10, "Lord, teach me to do thy will for thou art my God.  May your good spirit lead me on a smooth road."  The Lord has lead me up to this point and I know that He will also lead me further on if I will only believe in Him.  My wish and will is to make myself subordinate to Him and to be true to Him until my end."

Thank you, Heinrich. That's a wise word for me 128 years later in 2014.

Wisdom and strength,

Virginia Knowles



Tuesday, February 4, 2014

Refresh Retreat



Dear friends,

Nearly two weeks ago, I had the immense privilege of attending a Refresh Retreat hosted by my friend Sandy Traugott.  I'd like to share it with you through pictures and captions.  It's funny that "Refresh" was my "one word" for 2013, and I still need it now more than ever.


Sandy is a veteran home school mom
whose children are all grown.
She is a seasoned saint,
well-acquainted with the trials of life,
but filled with a flourishing love of Jesus.

She inspires me.

Drop your cell phones here!
This is a day to get away 

without distraction.
(But it's there if you need it.)

A time to breathe and stretch,
in a posture of devotion and worship.
It's called DoxaSoma, an integration
of Christian prayer and movement.
Pray and praise 
with body and soul.
I loved it.  Sandy brought the mats.

After a time of listening 
to worship music,
we each sat with our own 

Bibles and journals,
turned to Colossians,
and asked God to speak 

into our hearts
as we reflected on his Word.
This was not a lecture and workshop retreat.
It was mainly a silent retreat.

Communion was available
to take in solitude as we wished.

Plenty of healthy snacks - strawberries,
hummus and gluten-free crackers,
lemon water, a variety of teas...

We also brought our own lunches.

Only six ladies come to each retreat.
One of my fellow participants
is my son-in-law's sweet grandmother.
Chatting on the porch with her,
I find that she hosted dozens of ladies' retreats
at her mountain cabin in North Carolina.
Between that and visiting missionaries,
2,000 people from 20 nations 

stayed overnight at Higher Ground
which is now available for week-long rentals.
She is also active in homeless ministry,
as are most of the others who came that day.
Shirley's hospitality and grace astound me.
I am so grateful for the 

family legacy she lives
for my soon-to-be born grandson Lucas.

Art time with lots of supplies -
a way to creatively express 

who we are in Christ,
and who we want to become in him.

Everyone else made 
collages from magazines.
I had already decided,
after pondering on Colossians,
to sketch my version 

of a kaleidoscope image,
inscribing Scripture 
words 
of grace and truth
onto the broken pieces my life, 
reflecting radiant beauty in the 
light of God's glory.
You can see and read about 

my finished piece here:

Kaleidoscope (Big Words)

We ended our day with a brief time 
of sharing what we had learned,
encouraging and praying for one another.


Our view out the window
of the condo clubhouse...
I went outside later
to take pictures by the lake.
You can see them here
in this related hymn post:
What a Friend We Have in Jesus.

What a refreshing day! 

If you live in the Orlando area, and would like to attend one of Sandy's free day long (9 AM - 4 PM) retreats, please visit her web site here:  Refresh Retreat.

Note on February 10: I finally finished journaling through Colossians 4.  Here are my Good Words!

Grace and peace,
Virginia Knowles
www.ComeWearyMoms.blogspot.com

P.S. Please enjoy one of the songs of worship from the retreat... "I Need You Now" by Matt Redman.  I downloaded it for my iPod, of course.

Friday, January 24, 2014

Kaleidoscope (Big Words)


What is this?


It's my blooming kaleidoscope flower!

I created it today at the Refresh retreat 
hosted by my friend Sandy.
It was a mostly silent retreat, 
and I'll write more about it later on another blog.

But for now, just the story behind the picture.

It started here on the couch,
before I even picked up my colors. 
In my private devotional time
reading through Colossians.
I wrote down key words
and pondered how they applied to me.



I came in weary and grieving this morning.
Last year, my most challenging ever,
left me feeling fragmented.
It's not yet over.

Today, in my meditations on 
Scripture and my tumultuous life,
I thought of the word:

KALEIDOSCOPE

Broken pieces,
raised to the light,
jumbled and reflected,
turned and turned
and raised up again,
ever-changing 
beautiful patterns:
redemption.

Why yes, I did just write an impromptu poem.

So when we sat down at the art tables,
while the others made collages,
I knew what I would draw with markers instead.



My outlines uneven,
shading splotchy,
as my life often is also.
I started filling in around the edges.


The words came from 
my morning's journaling
chapter by chapter in Colossians in my



 I apply words of TRUTH
to the broken places of my life.




Love
Wisdom
Grace
Truth
Joy
Glory
Hope
Peace
Reverence
Gratitude
Encouragement
Growth
Devotion
Treasure
Endurance
Prayer
Singing
Service
Reality
Unity
Fullness
Strength
Sincerity


And on the stem, the words:

Rooted
Growing
Bearing Fruit

That's what I want to be and do.

At the end of the day,
one of the sweet ladies shared
what a blessing it was 
that she saw me blossom into joy
during the day
as I spent extended quiet time with God.
It happens that way,
doesn't it?

More later.

Oh, here it is now, two weeks later!
Two more posts featuring this retreat!


Virginia


Monday, April 22, 2013

25 Years Later, Looking Back on a Miscarriage

Twenty-five years ago today...

I miscarried our second baby at six weeks.

I wrote about this five years ago and a relative told me how much it meant to her, since she had just experienced a miscarriage herself.  Here is an updated version of it...


~*~*~


Several of my dear friends have had miscarriages in the past year or so. I know at least a little of how they feel, because I miscarried our second baby on April 22, 1988, when our oldest was about ten months old. 

I remember my friend Darlene warning me, "You may feel fine now, but in a couple of weeks you might have a hormonal backlash. You may feel really horrible for a while, but it's normal. Don't think you are going crazy." I'm not sure I believed her at the time, but she was right. Two weeks after my miscarriage, my emotions went wild for several days. I was edgy and angry, like a monster case of PMS. So when I hear of a mama who has had a miscarriage, I pass along that helpful tip. Most of the women I have talked to have confirmed it to be true. If you have a miscarriage or stillbirth, do allow yourself to grieve your loss, even as you learn to accept it. Get your rest. Your body and soul need it. 

If you have lost a little one, I also encourage you to be comforted by the testimonies and counsel of others who know what it is like. You can find many web sites and books on the topic of pregnancy loss. I find that even now, I have a very soft spot in my heart for wee little children and their mommies. When I see them suffer in any way, it pulls at my heartstrings. And I still grieve the miscarriage now and then. I don't think about it often anymore, but when I do, I allow myself to feel it and to receive God's comfort. As I was thinking about writing this article, I couldn't sleep. I got up early in the morning and paced the kitchen floor, weeping. But it is a good kind of mourning, the kind that knows joy will come again. I will hold my little one in Heaven, where he or she is already safe in the arms of Jesus, waiting for Mommy and Daddy to catch up! That's the truth about God's grace! 

Bolivia Trip #2, 2009 
And there was joy after our mourning. Just under a year later, our second daughter made her grand debut, followed by eight more children after that. I thank God for granting me this precious baby just a year after my loss and growing her up into such a lovely young woman.   I realize that if I hadn't lost our second pregnancy, this daughter would never have been born, and she is a treasure.  She has a very soft spot in her heart for people who are suffering.  She and her husband are active in ministry to the homeless in Orlando and to impoverished regions of Bolivia, where they are leading a short term missions team this summer.  (It will be her fifth trip there.)



Not every grieving mommy will have another baby.  I can't promise sunshine and roses.  The ache may linger for a lifetime.  But God knows the End from the Beginning. We can trust him to work out all the details in between. 

Grace and peace,

Virginia Knowles
www.ComeWearyMoms.blogspot.com

Wednesday, September 5, 2012

The Mom's Alphabet


Accept, admire, affirm, and appreciate your family.

Boldly believe our big God for beautiful, bountiful blessings.

Calm courtesy communicates care and combats chaos.

Diligence and delegation dutifully do daily deeds.

Encourage by enthusiastic example.

Face, fix, forgive, and forget foolish faults.

Grace is given where grace is needed.  Glory to God!

Have a happy, humorous, harmonious, hope-filled home.

Include imagination, inspiration, and interesting information.

Juggle your jobs judiciously and joyfully.

Kiss your kids!

Listen, then lovingly lead.

Meet many marvelous mothers.

Notice new needs.

Overcome obnoxious offenses with optimism.

Pray, prioritize, plan, and prepare for productivity and problem prevention.

Quick and quiet, not dawdling or riot.

Rules without relationships reap rebellion.

Serve sacrificially.

Take time to teach and train truthfulness and thankfulness.

Understand until united.

Virtuosity is victorious.

Wise words will win.

Xpect excellence.

Yackety yack, no talking back.

Zippety doo-dah, zippety ay, my oh my what a wonderful day!


I wrote this many years ago and have shared it all over the place, but I just realized it's not on any of my current blogs!  I need to ponder this freshly myself!

Grace,
Virginia Knowles

Thursday, April 12, 2012

Two Trifles: Chocolate Strawberry and Caramel Apple

Dear friends,

Easter dinner calls for a special dessert!  This year, I decided to make two trifles.  A trifle is made from layering chunks or cake with sauces, whipped cream, and other yummy ingredients -- in our case  one with chocolate strawberry and the other caramel apple.

Chocolate Strawberry Trifle: Brownies, vanilla pudding, sliced strawberries, whipped topping...  


The J on top is for Julia, one of our married daughters, 
who would be turning 23 in a few days.   
I borrowed this trifle bowl from her.
It could also have been for Jesus, since we were celebrating his resurrection.


Caramel Apple Trifle: Homemade apple pie filling (sliced apples baked with apple juice, brown sugar, cinnamon, ginger and other spices), chunks of yellow cake, caramel sauce, vanilla pudding and whipped topping...




This trifle is in a large crystal bowl. I swirled the caramel and whipped topping with a fork to make it even fancier.  The cross is made from cinnamon sticks.  Even with food, I try to keep the Easter focus on Jesus and his sacrifice for us!




"Be imitators of God, therefore, 
as dearly loved children and live a life of love, 
just as Christ loved us and gave himself up for us 
as a fragrant offering and sacrifice to God." 
Ephesians 5:1-2

Grace and joy to you!
Virginia Knowles



P.S. This blog post is linked to...

Equip & Encourage Blog Carnival

Equip & Encourage Blog Carnival

Project 52!  The photo theme this week is Sacrifice.
project 52 p52 my3boybarians.com 

 Ann Kroeker's Food on Fridays 


Monday, September 5, 2011

New Series Coming: Grace Based Parenting by Dr. Tim Kimmel

Hello friends!


In coming weeks, I'm going to be sharing what I'm gleaning from a book called Grace Based Parenting: Set Your Family Free by Dr. Tim Kimmel. (You can click on that title to see the book at Christian Book Distributors.  It will let you look inside, too!) The book comes highly recommended by many people I respect, and I found a  used copy of it a couple of months ago so I couldn't pass it up.  In fact, just this morning I just saw a very favorable mention of it by Wendy Alsup in her post The Myth of the Biblical Parenting Method.  Karen Campbell at http://www.thatmom.com/ also gives it five stars in her review.


While I will be reading the book on my own and taking notes on each of the 11 chapters to share with you, my husband and I are also planning to go through it together.  We both realize how much we need grace in our family -- and how often we have detoured away from it with rigid expectations and frustration.


If you would like to read it at the same time I am writing my posts, grab your own copy here, and you can add your comments as we go along!  I'd love a little company on the journey!  And if you've already read it and want to offer your own opinion about it, leave a comment on this post!



As I post each article, I will link it right here. 





Chapter 4: "A Significant Purpose" 


You can visit Dr. Kimmel's web site at:



You may also wish to read/view articles and videos about parenting with grace at:

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